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Friday, April 13, 2012

In what ways do you think teenage breakups differ from adult breakups?


  1. Maturity and perspective. As you get older and gain experience you start to realize what matters and what doesn't. You start to see how things, situations, and relationships measure up next to others.

    1. Oops...that was Ellen's response

  2. I think teenage breakups can be more abrupt and lead to more anger, largely due to lack of maturity and experience in noticing the signs that a breakup is or should be approaching. Adults tend to notice and deal with the warning signs along the way so a breakup may not be so one-sided.

  3. I think teenage breakups in this day and age tend to be more dramatic(I can't live without him, I love her very much, and she means everything to me, and so on). What do you really know about love @ 15? what life experiences have you really had or gone thru @ 16? Having worked with young adults for a very long time, I have seen this in every spectrum. It seems like the hardest thing is realizing that tomorrow is a new day and life goes on. I think its more of a rite of passage thing, because we all (adults) can think of how we acted in relationships as teenagers and get a good laugh about it now. ---Val

  4. Ken and Louise - With adult break-ups the consequences are greater because typically there are kids and extended families involved and the relationships usually are longer. Having said that, break-ups hurt emotionally no matter how old you are.

  5. I agree with Ellen - it's a part of growing up. As a teenager, not much matters outside of friends, but as you grow and start to meet more people outside your old "core group," you begin to learn more about life and love.

    As an adult, you can begin making decisions based upon the experience and situations you've been through - you ultimately know what's right and wrong for you. However, as a teenager, where you've maybe only had a couple good friends and one or two bf/gf, you think the world is going to end when you lose them. It's tougher to see that maybe that person isn't the right one long-term, because you have no prior experiences to compare them to.

    My only advice, like I mentioned in the last post, is take every experience as a learning opportunity. You are always growing and maturing and hopefully becoming a better person because of it. Not each relationship will work. That's a fact. But deep down as you grow, you'll know that special person because they help you aspire to be a better person - they help you accomplish the dreams you have always wanted to accomplish. A good relationship will never have the other person pulling you back and preventing you from reaching those dreams...... When you do have someone like that (positive), do everything you can to keep them in your lives. But remember, things happen for a reason and although that individual might not be the person you marry, they might be the person to help you grow before you meet the person you should.

    Brett & Jenna