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Thursday, March 15, 2012

With all of responsibilities of having children, careers, running a house, how do "chores" get done in your home and how does that get decided?


  1. When Steve & I were both working full time jobs before we had kids, the chores at home were shared pretty evenly. We both enjoyed cooking dinners together, we took turns doing the grocery shopping, and each of us cleaned as needed. This has changed significantly since Lily was born and I stopped working outside of the home. Now I have taken on the bulk of the grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. It just makes sense this way since I am home and have the time to take care of these things. When Steve gets home in the evening, he often still has work to do. We both feel that the little bit of free time he does have in the evening should be spent playing, talking, reading & just being with the children (rather than doing chores). I guess you could say that his main "chore" each day is to take care of the kids' bedtime routine. He does this while I clean up the kitchen and finish any other end of the day tasks. Then we both get to read, snuggle & say goodnight to the kids.

  2. Ken and Louise- when the kids were little, I was a stay at home mom, so I did the household chores and the cooking. When I went back to work the chores were handled by a system of "preference" or "necessity". Preference would be Something like this, Ken prefers to mow the lawn, I could care less, so he gets the nod on the lawn. Necessity would be that Ken has a bad back so he can't shovel, so I get the mod on the shoveling. Cooking is a whole other matter.....I do some of the cookImg, but tha family preference is that I didn't.....ken is a much better cook than I am!

  3. Funny you ask this, as we just had one of our "conversations" about this yesterday. Brett was commenting about things being (or not being) done around the house. When we finally sat down to talk about it, we realized the root of these feelings came from A) Brett works from home and naturally ends up doing random things throughout the day around the house and B) he also LOVES cooking, and I DO NOT love it. I didn't realize that this was starting to wear on him, though he thought his comments were getting the point across. In talking together, I realized that I can "buck up" and attempt cooking more. Other than that, we share many of the tasks around the house, inside and out, though Brett is in sole control of the lawn mower :)
    -Jenna and Brett

  4. Team work and communication is so important in a relationship, its what holds a strong relationship together. As the question eluded to it, life as a married couple is tough enough, then you add a house, kids, cars, jobs, friends, and you are still expected to have a social life and spent time together.

    Chores are something we try to do together, from getting the kids ready, to cleaning the bathrooms, kitchen, sweeping, deciding who picks the kids up, and anything else you can squeeze in there. The truth is not everybody wants to do the dishes everytime, sometimes I have to tap my wife out (have her go relax or do something else, so i can finish the dishes). So, knowing you partner is also very important... Val n Sheryl