The RJLA Relational Studies course focuses on the development of relationships and the impact that circumstance have on those relationships.
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Tuesday, March 6, 2012
We know that intimacy is an important aspect of a relationship, that being said, how are you able to juggle the stresses of careers, children, etc. and still manage to make time for each other?
Ken and Louise - our children were active in sports growing up so we were very busy shuttling them to and from their sporting events. Since it was something that we both supported and enjoyed, we didn't mind. It wasn't until after they went to college that we made "us" a priority. One of the things we do every week is do our grocery shopping together every Sunday morning.. I call it date night! I know.....we are old....and queer, but we are still paying off college loans and can't afford to go out to dinmer or do a movie every week. Since we need groceries every week, it guarantees that we do something together as a couple weekly.
There are definitely days when we don't get much one-on-one time, but we try not to let that happen too often. Most evenings after the kids go to sleep, we have time to check in with each other - even though we often have our own "stuff" we need to get done at the end of the day. We try to get to bed at the same time - it's very comforting falling asleep together. As far as making time for each other outside the house, we try to schedule regular "dates". We are lucky to have Steve's family living close by so babysitting has never been a problem. Tricia & Steve
Sometimes we don't have time in the day...or week...for each other. Life sometimes gets in the way. Matt and I both work full time jobs and our children are still young (2 and 3), so they demand a lot of attention. We sneak moments when we can, but our quality time together is spent on the weekends. We're able to relax, have longer, uninterrupted conversations (post bedtime for the kiddos), and enjoy each other's company. We try to find time whenever possible during the weekday evenings, but it doesn't always work out. (Matt or I usually falls asleep while putting the girls to bed, or something else...work, other plans, housework gets in the way). -Ellen (Matt's away this week, so I'm flying solo!)
I think our answer is a bit easier because we don't have kids yet. I really look forward to ending each day with Brett after I get home. We have dinner together and talk about our days and what's going on in life, take the dog for a walk or go out and do other things, and then relax for a bit before heading to bed. I am sure all of that changes though once we have kids, so we already talk about making sure we keep each other a priority in our lives - as much as that is possible with a chaotic life of raising kids! :) ~ Jenna and Brett
YOU JUST HAVE TO.........plain and simple. Finding time for each other, especially with 2 young kids is very important to us. We are blessed to have family that we can sometimes have look after our children so we can spend some time together. What I have found out as parents is that, you have to be very creative, so if Sheryl and I want to watch a movie, or something, we know we have to put the kids to bed early, then enjoy each others company....(while watching the movie)..Sheryl and Val
Ken and Louise - our children were active in sports growing up so we were very busy shuttling them to and from their sporting events. Since it was something that we both supported and enjoyed, we didn't mind. It wasn't until after they went to college that we made "us" a priority. One of the things we do every week is do our grocery shopping together every Sunday morning.. I call it date night! I know.....we are old....and queer, but we are still paying off college loans and can't afford to go out to dinmer or do a movie every week. Since we need groceries every week, it guarantees that we do something together as a couple weekly.
ReplyDeleteThere are definitely days when we don't get much one-on-one time, but we try not to let that happen too often. Most evenings after the kids go to sleep, we have time to check in with each other - even though we often have our own "stuff" we need to get done at the end of the day. We try to get to bed at the same time - it's very comforting falling asleep together. As far as making time for each other outside the house, we try to schedule regular "dates". We are lucky to have Steve's family living close by so babysitting has never been a problem.
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Sometimes we don't have time in the day...or week...for each other. Life sometimes gets in the way. Matt and I both work full time jobs and our children are still young (2 and 3), so they demand a lot of attention. We sneak moments when we can, but our quality time together is spent on the weekends. We're able to relax, have longer, uninterrupted conversations (post bedtime for the kiddos), and enjoy each other's company. We try to find time whenever possible during the weekday evenings, but it doesn't always work out. (Matt or I usually falls asleep while putting the girls to bed, or something else...work, other plans, housework gets in the way). -Ellen (Matt's away this week, so I'm flying solo!)
ReplyDeleteI think our answer is a bit easier because we don't have kids yet. I really look forward to ending each day with Brett after I get home. We have dinner together and talk about our days and what's going on in life, take the dog for a walk or go out and do other things, and then relax for a bit before heading to bed. I am sure all of that changes though once we have kids, so we already talk about making sure we keep each other a priority in our lives - as much as that is possible with a chaotic life of raising kids! :) ~ Jenna and Brett
ReplyDeleteYOU JUST HAVE TO.........plain and simple. Finding time for each other, especially with 2 young kids is very important to us. We are blessed to have family that we can sometimes have look after our children so we can spend some time together. What I have found out as parents is that, you have to be very creative, so if Sheryl and I want to watch a movie, or something, we know we have to put the kids to bed early, then enjoy each others company....(while watching the movie)..Sheryl and Val
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